I’m Thorn – a white woman with dark hair, in my late 20s, very liberal and seriously nerdy. I work a desk job. Raised by serious Catholics in this area in the suburbs of River City, I’ve called myself an atheist for ages but am looking for a family church for us nonetheless. My parents are still married and my younger brothers all live fairly close. I’ve had significant direct experience with depression and related mental illness, sexual assault, ADHD, obsessive-compulsive disorder, and mild autism. While I’d hope for their sake my future children could avoid as many of those as possible, I’m well-informed and very open to dealing with them again in a parental context.
My partner is Lee – black, in her mid-40s, a former college basketball star and current tv fan. After a lot of time in the corporate world, she now teaches at a two-year college. She was raised and eventually adopted by her paternal grandparents, Baptists in the true flat Midwest. Of her parents, only her biological mother (her term of choice) is still alive. In her time in the River City area, she’s created a huge, supportive family of choice, which now includes my family or origin. She’s a serious Christian, but even though she logically believes I’ll be going to hell as an unbeliever, her gut tells her I’ll be just fine in the divine scheme of things because I’m such an awesome person. It’s possible she’s biased.
We’ve been living together since 2007 in her 100-year-old house in the lower Midwest. The plan for now is to star our training to get certified to adopt from foster care in 2008, buy or rent a bigger house in 2009, and hope we’ll get placement of a young, small sibling group there. After a few more years when the family is stabilized, we can move somewhere more liberal and accommodating. I’ll be able to telecommute and while her current job would be a good fit in terms of complementary schedules, we’d both rather eventually move on.