Pseudonyms and Us
Thorn and Lee are not, in fact our real names. Pseudonymity just seems prudent when writing a blog like this. The pseudonyms have tangential relations to our real names, but mostly I just chose them because they’re short and easy to type, as far as I know unique in the adoption blogosphere, and a little bit androgynous even though our real names are quite feminine. I have other places I can write online under my real name and I do just that. I don’t want to be deceptive here, just honest, and keeping our names and locations the tiniest bit cloaked seems like the best way to deal with that.
That said, if you know Lee or me by our other names whether online or in person and you’re reading this blog, I’d appreciate if you’d drop me a line at motherissues-at-gmail-dot-com (with no hyphens and appropriate punctuation) to let me know that. It’s the control freak in me. I want to get back to being 14 when I was coming out and keeping a little list in my journal/creative writing notebook about Who Knew. I don’t plan to change my writing based on who’s out there since anyone could be reading anyway, but it would make me more comfortable to know who’s aware of what I’m saying here. At minimum, it could get you out of having to hear anecdotes you’ve heard already. Well, actually, if you know us already you know there’s no honest way for me to make a promise like that.